When things don’t go the way you expect

It can be frustrating when things don’t unfold in the way you want them too.  In fact, it can lead you to feel out of control.  Yet, what if you learnt to have acceptance, and even patience around those things you are unable to change?

Patience has come to me via my meditation practice and also via reiki.  In reiki we look at everything as energy and how there is always a bigger picture at play.  When things are difficult, if we allow things to unfold in a natural way, we can see more clearly when and how to act when the time is required.  This is also a feature of meditation too.  If we hold on to0 strongly to an idea of what meditation should “be” we will resist the experience as it is.  Instead, we can accept the moment we are in, regardless of what that moment is.

When we are impatient, we have a desire to control what is around and within us.  When we are patient, we accept things are outside of our control – which is why it is often referred to as being a virtue.

Patience has certainly been a virtue when I put the writing of my book on hold almost two years ago.  Prior to COVID, I felt everything around my book was mapped out for me.  I had been offered the opportunity to write for a monthly publication as their “Mindfulness expert” and I felt with this exposure I would be certain to get a traditional publishing deal.  When COVID arrived, the magazine opportunity dwindled to nothing.  At first, I was frustrated and also hurt that this had happened to me.  Yet it wasn’t happening just to me.  COVID was affecting everyone in one way or another.  In this space I could see how family were more important than anything else and so when my stepdad passed away it was natural to put the book on hold so I could support my mum.  2021 started with another lockdown and a burst pipe which flooded our home, and then a few months later both my husband and I made changes to our jobs which would eventually allow us to go into the later years of our working life with a better balance.

It took time to adjust to these changes and I knew I couldn’t force the book to happen at the same time.  If I did, the energy of it wouldn’t feel right.  I knew I just needed to be patient, and when the time was right, I would reconnect.

I no longer see it all mapped out in front of me.  Instead, I just know it is coming together now in the best way for me at this time.  It isn’t unfolding in the order I had planned, it is unfolding in it’s natural way.  Just like when I meditate.  Just like how energy flows.  In the knowledge of this, I feel the soothing of calmness inside me and the knowing in my heart it is happening as it always should have done.  I can bring everything I have learned in the last two years to shape the book in a better way.

Would you like to feel more patience and acceptance in your life?  Do you feel drawn to learn more about Reiki or Meditation?  If so, please get in touch to receive information packs about how either of these modalities can help you – there is still time to join me on the next courses starting in September: info@sarahpresley.co.uk